Simply having children does not make mothers.
How true. Why this topic? No, i'm not pregnant. I came across a scenario today between a child and her mother today and it was rather disturbing. Thus, this topic. Ok, the child is none other than one of my p1 tuition kid.
Today, i had to go over to teach in the evening. When i reached, the kid's mother and her maternal grandmother was sitting in the living room together with the younger daughter and maid. I acknowledged the mother and went to the study room. 20minutes later, the grandmother left and the mother went to her room and closed the door. At my side, my student wasn't paying attention and was irritating the hell out of me. She started coughing, thinking something was irritating her throat i told her to go get a drink. But even then, it proved useless and i could hear wheezing sound. I suspected she was asthmatic but didn't want to ask her. I told her to drink more water but it still didn't stop and she had difficulty in breathing even.
She said she needed her medicine and told her to go ahead and take. She went to knock her mother's door and i heard her mom come out, call for the maid to take the medicine and went back to her room. The maid came in..gave the inhaler and all. After that, the mother didn't come out to check whether the child is alright or not. The younger child, went to knock on her mother's door and kept calling for her mother. She kept knocking for about 3-4 minutes..but the mother didn't open the door nor did she answer her daughter. The younger one did this 2 times, 15mins apart but no difference. Still, the mother didn't do anything. And, the rest was history. The girl kept saying she was tired, headache, sneezing.
arrgh. i left early. oh, did i mention that the parents had a fight? ok, this info the maid told me.
I feel sad for the children. The father is working and sometimes dont even come home for the night. The mother is always on the phone. Everything depending on the maid. Ok fine, you had a fight with your husband, but what did your children do? Don't vent it on them. Can't you even come out and give your child the inhaler and some rub ointment? Or at least, come out and ask if she's ok?
My maternal instincts always work strong for me. I can vision myself taking care of my babies, but it will never be like the one above. I hope not
at least. In my view, i think motherhood is the best. Pregnancy, morning-sickness, maternity clothes, swollen feet, less-than-an-arm's-length child. haha. Nope, im not experienced. But yeah, and experiencing parenthood, you can only bond and play with your child to a certain age. Once, they reach a particular age, you can no longer play with them, their friends will become closer, they will be at home less and they wont come and tell you what happens in school.
It's that particular phase of parenthood. Embrace that, be with your children as much as you can. For when that moment is gone, its gone forever. I hope i will never be in that situation.
Labels: babies, parenting.
Monday, April 16, 2007 // 8:46 AM